Recently, there are a large variety of popular dating sites, online resources, dating sites, mobile applications, and international marriage agencies sites with catalogues of foreign men. Every second somebody is using a particular system of dating service. Online dating looks comfortable, safe (at first sight!), accessible, mobile.
Let’s look on the basic methods of dating, types of online dating and the registration procedure at dating-systems and try answer the question “why our women want marry a foreigner?” what is the purpose.
There are two basic ways to get acquainted with a foreigner for Ukrainian woman:
1) Register herself on online dating national or international site, paid or unpaid dating site; activate status "Actively searching" in social net or "in search" to make open access to your public page, thus expanding the boundaries of the search, specify the level of knowledge of English (preferably not less than intermediate); install mobile applications of online dating on Smartphone.
2) Register in a local marriage agency, international dating or matchmaking service, by providing contact information, photos.
The main difference between these two methods as we see is in the presence of a mediator in the second way, agency is responsible for the use of information received from woman to find her a partner, in the selection according to woman’s criteria of candidates, in organizing the process of communication and meetings.
If your feel that your language skills, self-confidence, time is limited – you should use agency.
What kinds of online dating sites are the most effective for women?! The most effective way to get acquainted with a foreigner invariably is a registration on specialized resources of leading international dating sites. Correctly composed profile, a professional photo set, defined objectives and search criteria of life partner will give woman the opportunity to choose the right candidate.
Dating sites/marriage agencies. To use or not to use the services of marriage agencies is an individual choice. But it is clear that main purposes of communication on dating sites and marriage agencies must be: relationships search of life partner, marriage. The main types of communication on dating sites are correspondence, online chats, online calls. Basic search criteria on dating sites are: marital status, number of children, the level of knowledge of foreign languages, geolocation, interests.
Personal search. Less effective is to make search through social networks and mobile apps in online dating. Most of the contacts, established through these types of dating do not lead to real meetings and relationships. The main type of communication here is online chat. The main search criteria are "interests". The main purpose of these resources is communication itself, but not marriage!
Registration on all dating systems provides profiling, uploading photos, in case of registration on the leading dating site through marriage agencies added customer identification, data validation of profiles and documents.
The main reasons why women register in marriage agency is a lack of knowledge about the work of specialized resources, ignorance in foreign languages, lack of self-confidence, lack of understanding of own capabilities, abilities and needs. Motivation of women, whose purpose is the desire to marry a foreigner, can be totally different. Despite the widespread belief that the cause of the willing of women to marry foreigner is a desire to improve the quality of life and move to more developed countries, the main reason is anyway disappointment in local men, the negative experience of past relations. So why they want marry foreingers? Because they truely believe that somewhere far men differs, value more care they can give, respect women more like personality, ready to be protectors and providers, ready accept their kids, ready for official marriage.
The myth that getting married abroad is easy, that the foreigner is a fabulous foreign prince, who will safe from undone and decide all problems is not real. Women should understand that there are no better men, better conditions or better life! Each one creates own happiness themselves and should create a comfortable life themselves here and now!
Naina, psychologist, dating coach, matchmaker of RealdateStudio
